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Menopause and Night Sweats

night sweats Menopause and Night Sweats where to start!

Seems a woman’s woes don’t stop. Firstly with the trials and tribulations of entering womanhood.   Settling in to this then comes the excitement of having a family only to be faced with the pain of  child birth and all the little aftermaths that come with it. Of course this is all worthwhile for the love of our children.

Then comes the time where our children become adults, leave home and we start to enjoy the onset of Midlife crisis and Menopause.

It is such a joy and we are so lucky NOT!!  I have recently experienced the onset of the night sweats and I can tell you it is not pleasant.  How can it be so nice and snug in bed one minute and then  you are overcome with heat, throwing off the bed clothes and  the beads of sweat make you feel like your  in a swimming pool.

This reminds me a book that I read recently that really made me laugh on this subject….I have put a little extract below on Menopause and Night Sweats….it you are interested I can let you know where to purchase it!

“Sleep was apparently not allowed by those nasty little demons up in the heavens that were playing with me. I could just picture them, up there, laughing and seeing what other plagues they could send my way. Shits!

My poor, poor, husband bore the brunt though dear Reader….the poor bastard didn’t know what to do! Who exactly is this raging, fishwife who has taken over my wife’s body? What evil spell has befallen my wife and turned her into the little girl out of “The Exorcist”, turning twisting head, bulging eyes, speaking tongue and all?

Oh dear Reader, it wasn’t a pretty sight and yet I still persevered with the madness for 2 years.”

Anyone else have some stories to tell regarding the onset of midlife crisis and Menopause.

Still laughing at myself

Laughing Image Live Laugh LoveStill laughing at myself!

Is it just me or does this happen to others all the time??  Not sure what  I was thinking at the time to attract this situation to myself.
As you know last time it was the mishap with the blender. This time it was the salt and pepper grinder.   I will start at the beginning.  We previously owned a combined Salt and Pepper grinder and to cut a long story short I dropped it and it was never the same again after that.    Some weeks ago they had a sale at Harvey Norman and I purchased another salt and pepper grinder.  I Got the shaker home and discovered it needed batteries, 6 AAA’s mind you.  Well it sat on the bench for some time before I finally remembered to buy the batteries.  I bought them home and  my husband was standing at the sink washing the dishes and I filled the grinder with pepper and salt and put the batteries in, I turned away to put the empty packet in the bin.  Well my hubby picks up the grinder  to make sure the lid is on properly and was holding it over the sink and you guessed it, he dropped it in the sink…the lid was quite secure in his hand the rest of the grinder Immersed in the water. Well again I could do nothing but laugh.  All that time to get the batteries and now we have a grinder that does not work.

Not to be disheartened I made another trip to Harvey Norman to purchase another one lucky they were still only $19.95.  This grinder did make it to it’s first use and a few more but then started to only work when it felt like it.  This morning my husband had cooked up some nice scrambled eggs and I was telling him how the grinder didn’t appear to be working, he suggested it was probably the batteries.  I took the grinder apart and inspected it and decided it was probably the batteries also.   I then put the grinder back together and pushed the lid down.  I then proceeded to collect my freshly cooked scrambled eggs and picked up the grinder to see if it could possibly work…..well it seems yet again the lid was not on properly and the grinder went crashing to the floor. You can see the results below!   Again I just cracked up and started to laugh proceeding to the table to eat my breakfast before it got cold and clean the mess later.   I have come to the conclusion we are not meant to have a grinder that is combined!

Is there something that you are sure you are never meant to have??

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From Frustration to Fear to Action to Freedom

angry_business_manFrom Frustration to Fear to Action to Freedom

Have you ever been down this track?  You would be amazed how quickly you can go from one to the other!

My husband experienced all these within one week this week.  Just to fill you in…..my husband got made redundant just under 2 years ago.  While at this time he experienced the fear of not having a job this was short lived with the offer of a job from a Queensland based company.  Small problem was he would be working 2 weeks away and  have 1 week home.   Although it was hopeful to know the company only saw this as a short term arrangement with the vision  to grow the company and have  permanent work in Melbourne.

Some eighteen months later the prospect of work in Melbourne was no closer.  To add to this the prior arrangement of 2 weeks away and 1 week home seemed to turn into 4 weeks away 2 weeks home, 3 weeks away 2 days home, it became very erratic.  As you can imagine trying to sustain a family life and plan a social life was becoming impossible he just never knew when he was going to be home.  The frustration of not knowing what you are doing so you can plan to catch up with family and friends meant that if you wanted to guarantee attending a family function you had to apply for annual leave just for a weekend event.

My husband was grateful for his week at home to do odd jobs around the home and enjoy his passion of surfing.  When this flowed over to 2 weeks and he was waiting around just to hear when and where he would be going next this bought about the frustration.  One would say that it is awesome being paid to be home…things are not always what they seem though as he could be called at the drop of a hat to be on a plane in a couple of hours to go to work and not even knowing when he was going to return.  Often he was told that he was going to be away for maybe a week or two and then this could turn into 4 weeks and all the plans that were made for when you thought he was going to be home went out the door. You can now see the frustration of the “not knowing”.   Well of course the answer to this was find another job! Life is too short to be in a job that makes you unhappy.  Ah easier said than done…. That is where the fear and uncertainty comes in not to mention the indecision of what to do!  How secure does it feel to stay where you are?…… better than the fear of the ‘unkown’.  Heard  the saying “Better the devil you know”  What point do you have to get to ….. to just take that leap and get out of your comfort zone?

I am proud to say that a week ago today my husband overcame that ‘fear’ and made the decision he wanted to be home with his family working permanently in Melbourne.  On making this decision he overcame his ‘fear’ and took ‘action’ making a few phone calls and within 2 days he had a job offer, actually 2 job offers.  Now he has ‘freedom’ you can even hear the difference in his voice over the phone. “The Icing is in the Cake” as they say…….the joy and benefits of overcoming that ‘fear’ out way the security of staying put!   As I type this my husband is making his way home from Western Australia and it will be so good to have him home and have normality in our lives not to mention a Happy Hubby!  Proud of you “Polly” (that’s what we all call him).

What frustration and fear can you overcome to take action and have Freedom!

Can you laugh at yourself?

sillinessCan you laugh at yourself!   I often laugh at myself as my family can tell you.  Quite often they  find me talking to myself also, actually I even answer myself back sometimes…..sign of going crazy I know.

I just had to tell you about my little mishap this morning!  I had an early morning coaching call at 7.30am and decided that I would have my breakfast bright and early so there would be no stomach gurgling during the call.  Every second day I make a nice healthy smoothie and today was the day!  In goes some apple, pear, kiwi fruit, frozen blueberries, kale, flax seeds, chai seeds, LSA, yoghurt and some coconut water….all in there….switched it on and just one minor technicality!…..I forgot to put the lid on!!!!    As you can imagine the ingredients went everywhere including all over me!     What else can one do but laugh at yourself!   Those seeds were everywhere.  I even found a piece of Kiwi fruit over near the laundry door some 3 metres away.

Maybe I get this what you may call ‘vagueness’ for want of a better word from my mum she was always laughing at herself.  Nothing like a good belly laugh anyway to lighten the mood.  As the saying goes “No good crying over spilt milk”!   Some hours later on speaking to my husband about it he said ” You sure it didn’t go on the ceiling?”   Sure enough I looked up and there were all these spats of yoghurt and fruit dotted on the ceiling.  Oh well nothing a bit of soap and water and elbow grease to clean it off and I have a clean kitchen and ceiling once more!

Can you laugh at yourself??  Is there something that you have done and maybe couldn’t laugh about at the time but can now when you recall it??  Love to hear about!

Letting Go

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Letting Go –  the definition being ‘release’.  A song I heard today by Barbara Streisand “Letting Go” was an inspiration for my blog today!  Just click on the link.

Wow how hard is it to let go of anything?  There are so many things we hang onto such as past limiting beliefs, past relationships, past disagreements, items from a loved one who has passed away just to name a few.  What keeps us holding on these?

Let’s take the ‘Past Relationships’ the very thing that Barbara Streisand is singing about in this song is love.  An old saying comes to mind “If you love it let it go” so much meaning in so little words and what a struggle it is Letting Go!  It’s so hard when you love someone so much coming to terms with the fact that they cannot reciporicate your love.  Some people hang onto the fear of letting themselves love others to prevent themselves from getting hurt again.  They carry this ‘baggage’ with them for years into new relationships and wonder why things are just not working.  How can you be ‘free’ to love someone else when you haven’t given yourself the freedom of letting go of past relationships?

The same can be said for relationships with your family and friends.  Are you harbouring old disagreements and hurts with loved ones or friends that are eating away at you?  Most of the time the person you are holding the resentment for is oblivious to what they may have done or not done, said or not said so the problem lies within.  Let it out, let them know and then Let it Go!  I know easier said than done!  Could you agree to disagree?  Do we have to be right? Let’s face it most of the time no-one is right or wrong it comes down to your beliefs and perspective on the issue that is holding you back from just letting go.  This often happens if the other person doesn’t hold the same values as yourself and it could be time to decide if you really want this person in your life.  Is it better to surround yourself with like-minded people to yourself and live in harmony?

Another thing people find hard to let go is a job that is holding them back from moving forward or is just simply a bad environment for them.  The effects from this can have such a large impact on their personal lives as they take this energy that is bringing them down back to their home, loved ones and friends.  As the saying goes “Happy job – Happy life”.   Life is way too short to be not doing what you want to do.  Ask yourself what fears or insecurities am I holding onto that is holding me back from moving forward and keeping me in a ‘rut’.  Imagine the freedom in just Letting Go!

Even items from loved ones that have passed we can tend to hold onto as many as we can in a desperate effort to hang onto their memory, I am guilty of this myself.  The fact that I am a hoarder didn’t help either.  Slowly, Slowly I am learning the art of letting go of some of the items that people would think I am crazy hanging onto. I am now aware that the memories live on within my heart and will be there forever and I don’t need things to remind me.   In saying this, I will never let go of all of keepsakes as the ones I have kept are beautiful keepsakes to pass down to generations to keep the family heritage going.   For me it also means letting go of the feelings of being selfish for my mum not being in my life anymore.  Knowing that she is around us and is totally happy and ‘free’ herself really helps.

I wish you freedom in Letting Go of any issues you may have with the past or present!  Have an awesome day!  Link below for you

Letting Go –  the definition being ‘release’.  A song I heard today by Barbara Streisand “Letting Go” was an inspiration for my blog today!  I have put a link to this at the bottom of my blog.

Wow how hard is it to let go of anything?  There are so many things we hang onto such as past limiting beliefs, past relationships, past disagreements, items from a loved one who has passed away just to name a few.  What keeps us holding on these?

Let’s take the ‘Past Relationships’ the very thing that Barbara Streisand is singing about in this song is love.  An old saying comes to mind “If you love it let it go” so much meaning in so little words and what a struggle it is Letting Go!  It’s so hard when you love someone so much coming to terms with the fact that they cannot reciprocate your love.  Some people hang onto the fear of letting themselves love others to prevent themselves from getting hurt again.  They carry this ‘baggage’ with them for years into new relationships and wonder why things are just not working.  How can you be ‘free’ to love someone else when you haven’t given yourself the freedom of letting go of past relationships?

The same can be said for relationships with your family and friends.  Are you harbouring old disagreements and hurts with loved ones or friends that are eating away at you?  Most of the time the person you are holding the resentment for is oblivious to what they may have done or not done, said or not said so the problem lies within.  Let it out, let them know and then Let it Go!  I know easier said than done!  Could you agree to disagree?  Do we have to be right? Let’s face it most of the time no-one is right or wrong it comes down to your beliefs and perspective on the issue that is holding you back from just letting go.  This often happens if the other person doesn’t hold the same values as yourself and it could be time to decide if you really want this person in your life.  Is it better to surround yourself with like-minded people to yourself and live in harmony?

Another thing people find hard to let go is a job that is holding them back from moving forward or is just simply a bad environment for them.  The effects from this can have such a large impact on their personal lives as they take this energy that is bringing them down back to their home, loved ones and friends.  As the saying goes “Happy job – Happy life”.   Life is way too short to be not doing what you want to do.  Ask yourself what fears or insecurities am I holding onto that is holding me back from moving forward and keeping me in a ‘rut’.  Imagine the freedom in just Letting Go!

Even items from loved ones that have passed we can tend to hold onto as many as we can in a desperate effort to hang onto their memory, I am guilty of this myself.  The fact that I am a hoarder didn’t help either.  Slowly, Slowly I am learning the art of letting go of some of the items that people would think I am crazy hanging onto. I am now aware that the memories live on within my heart and will be there forever and I don’t need things to remind me.   In saying this, I will never let go of all of keepsakes as the ones I have kept are beautiful keepsakes to pass down to generations to keep the family heritage going.   For me it also means letting go of the feelings of being selfish for my mum not being in my life anymore.  Knowing that she is around us and is totally happy and ‘free’ herself really helps.

I wish you freedom in Letting Go of any issues you may have with the past or present!  Have an awesome day!

 

Motivation

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Motivation

 

Motivation –  what is the meaning of the word?  It is the reason or reasons one has for acting or behaving in a particular way. Also the general desire or willingness of someone to do something.

 

What motivation have you got??   What would it take to get you motivated??

 

When you see someone succeeding and hear their story behind why they have succeeded this can often be the motivation and inspiration you need to do what you want to do.

 

Is it that we are stuck in a ‘rut’ and this is why we lack the motivation to do anything? We just need that inspiration or passion for something that really excites us!  More often than not we are searching for our life purpose or a job that we really enjoy.  A job that would drive us to jump out of bed each morning with excitement.

 

I am one of the fortunate ones that has recently (well in the past few years) found my life purpose to be a life coach.  This came about listening to the stories of others and the achievements they have made giving me the motivation to do what I love doing.

 

This is not something I found straight away….I did try quite a few things beforehand that I thought were my life purpose, my husband can vouch for that.  In actual fact my life purpose found me.  The inspirational video I received via email was enough to set me on my journey to being a life coach and I haven’t looked back.  I am passionate about supporting and helping who I can to live the life they choose!

 

Would the fact that you are only on this planet for a short time be enough motivation to be doing what you love doing rather than just existing?

 

We can hear and see many things from people that may give us the motivation to do what we want to do. As with everything it is up to us to take the action!

Think About – Bring About

Think About – Bring About – What does this mean??  In a nutshell what we think about we bring about to ourselves.  If we think we are going to have a bad day that is exactly what we get. Ever stubbed your toe on the end of the bed in the morning and just continued to have a bad day there on in?  Were you possibly thinking you were going to have a bad day and it just snowballed?

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Thoughts are ‘real’ forces.  Just like everything else in the universe thoughts are made up of energy.  As science indicates everything is made of energy and I mean everything to the chair you are sitting on or the car you are driving.  The only difference is the rate the energy vibrates at. Hard to comprehend I know and I still wonder about it myself.   I am a firm believer in the LOA (Law of attraction).  This belief is based upon the idea that people and their thoughts are both made from pure energy, and the belief that like energy attracts like energy.

Ever noticed that when you go into a shop and the assistant appears to be angry or grumpy you can almost feel the bad energy they are giving off.  You can even find yourself taking on their energy and forming the same mood or attitude.  How different would this be if the person was cheerful and happy?  So you can see the way you are thinking reflects your mood.  What are you thinking right now?  How is that affecting your mood?  How is it making you feel?

I know we can’t be happy all the time, try changing the way you think and you will be surprised how you can turn it around.  Most of our thinking comes from habits or beliefs.   Now if someone told you all your life you were useless, you will end up thinking you are useless and go through life thinking this to be true. This is where it becomes valuable to believe in yourself.

Just this morning my friend was saying that she is no good at anything…..I said that is only because “YOU” think that,  no-one else does.  I listed all the things she does in her job and asked did the accountant or her boss have a problem with her work, to which she replied “Oh Well No”.  I am hoping the next time I ask her the question she may have time to think about it and give me a different answer.  I was going to go through and list the multitude of things she was good at just to make her really think about how valuable she really is but somehow we got side tracked and off the subject entirely.   This does go back to the old saying “If we think we can – We can”  “If we think we can’t we can’t”.    Reminds of the story of Thomas the Tank Engine just  saying to himself all the way up that hill  “I think I can, I think I can” and he got up to the top of the hill.

So if you think you are going to have a terrible life and get nowhere – you won’t.  Change the way you think and you will get the life you want!

Relationships

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Relationships – what is the first thing that comes to mind when you hear this word?  For most I could say being married, engaged or in a relationship etc.   Think about it a bit more and you then realise there are all different types of relationships.  Business relationships, doctor/patient relationships, relationships with your friends, pets etc. etc.

The meaning of Relationships in the dictionary is – The condition or fact of being related; connection or association; Connection by blood or marriage; kinship; a particular type of connection existing between people related to or having dealings with each other.

Relationships are a large part of our daily lives.  Some people make the mistake of entering into a relationship expecting it only to be beneficial to them and not for what they can do for the other person.  If this is not the case they may give something to the relationship but always expect something in return.  It is never a ‘one way’ street. We know the meaning of giving is to bestow without receiving a return.

In business it is all about building a relationship with your clients by adding what ‘value’ and service you can provide to them.  At first the client may not purchase your product or engage in your services but by building rapport they will either end up doing business with yourself or refer others to your business.   The same can be said for building relationships with your co-workers to make the workplace a pleasant environment to work in.  Respecting each other values is paramount.

The key is having the right attitude when entering into a relationship. We all have our set of values that are important to us.  When we enter into a relationship with people who are congruent with these values this is when the relationship works in harmony.

When starting a new relationship especially a romantic relationship we tend to overlook our partner not being congruent with our values.  In the beginning we could be looking through ‘rose coloured glasses’ only to resent the partner years on for not having ‘our’ values.  People often mistake this for the partner having changed when in actual fact they are still the same person.

This is one of the reasons I am passionate about taking clients through the Fit4Love programme that focuses on choosing a partner that has the same values as you.  At the same time recognising your key characteristics and what a great catch you are!

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Perspective

Perspective is a particular attitude towards or way of regarding something; a point of view; the way you see something. If you think that toys corrupt children’s minds, then from your perspective a toy shop is an evil place. Remember this only ‘your’ perspective!

Perspective has a Latin root meaning “look through” or “perceive,” and all the meanings of perspective have something to do with looking. If you observe the world from a dog’s perspective, you see through the dog’s eyes.

Let’s take a night out at a party. Let’s say you speak to a few different people individually that were at the same party. You will find some would have the perspective that the party was awesome and others would have the perspective that it was boring, again this is only ‘their’ perspective.

Visit a fashion show and I am sure you would get all different perspectives from all the people who attended the show regarding the fashions that were presented.

Take past events in your life. Recall a past event with family or friends that were present. You may find they will recall the event very differently than yourself and this would just be ‘their’ perspective. Things that would place a bearing on this perspective would be possibly the attitudes of people at the time. What you perceived to be the attitude of one particular person and what they perceived to be the attitude of the person could be totally different. You would both be looking from your own perspective.

This is particularly evident in the recollection of events when you were a child. What perspective you had of an event can be totally different to that of an adult that was present at the same time.

When I was only three years old my father left us. Up until I was thirteen years old I believed he had died. When I mentioned this to my mother she couldn’t understand where I got the idea from. Seems the explanation I was given at the time that he had “gone” I perceived as him having died. Puts a whole new meaning on the saying “Taken or Blown right out of perspective”

Remembering the meaning of perspective when getting into a discussion with others can make it easier to accept their views, as you know it is only their “perspective” and after all we are all entitled to our opinion or perspective. Try not to take the perspective that others have personally.

Have you heard the meaning “Agree to Disagree” can avoid any heated discussions?

Keepsakes

Keepsakes are items kept in memory of the person who gave it or originally owned it.  How many keepsakes do you have??  How much more emphasis do you place on a keepsake once the person who owned it or gave it to you passes away?

When my mum sadly, suddenly passed away it was a shock to us all.  Although she was diagnosed with a tumour we were all confident that she was going to be with us for quite a while longer.  This was not to be! Words can’t describe how much we all miss her.

Weeks later when  the time came to sort through her belongings it was like everything you touched held a memory of her and we wanted to hold onto it for a keepsake.  Those who know me well would say I am a bit of a hoarder (although I am improving immensely) which made the task even more difficult.  Now there is only so much you can take on a plane or save in a box til a later date to collect which meant I had to be realistic.

One thing I did keep was a blanket that my mum had crotched that was in need of repair. My crocheting skills are not that great.  This was when I decided to also take all the crocheting implements, patterns and yarn as an incentive to teach myself to crochet. I could then become proficient enough to mend the blanket and possibly make other items that I could leave as keepsakes for my family.

It was such a nice feeling when I picked up something that I knew I had given to my mum and the memories that it held.  It was also nice knowing that my mum valued the item enough to hold onto for a keepsake.

We did remember most things that we had given to mum and we all respectively kept them as our own keepsakes.  Though there were instances where no one could remember who had given an item to Mum.   This has prompted me to add to my list of things to do “A catalogue” of my keepsakes that I have.  I am going to take photos and put a brief description of where it came from and what it means to me.  I am sure in doing this I may be able to eliminate some keepsakes that really are past their ‘use by date’ or just not significant enough to be a keepsake.  Let’s face it there are only so many keepsakes you can hold onto.  After all it is the memory of our loved ones that lives on within our hearts forever.